Dads, you are the family theologian. It doesn’t matter if you wanted that role or not; it’s yours. It’s mine. We are constantly teaching our children; they are always learning from us. Parents play a huge role in shaping a child’s view of God. As the leaders of our homes it is our job to make sure we are informing and training them as accurately as possible.
Are we seeking to know God more deeply? Are we seeking to live a holy life? Are we seeking to understand Him and His creation, His grace, His gospel better? Fellow dads, are you learning so that you can better equip your children? Are you praying for them, that God would capture their hearts and set them on fire with a passion for Him and His Truth?
Do you have regular times during the week where you sit and formally teach your children about the God we serve and love? If not, for their sake and yours, I plead with you to start. It doesn’t have to be every night, but start teaching them, and by God’s grace be consistent.
One of the many things this will do is get your children in the habit of coming to you with spiritual or biblical questions, which is way better than having them run to their friends with life’s most important questions. Don’t be afraid of the questions. And don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.” If they have a question you can’t answer, call your pastor and set up a meeting with him. Then, take the your little inquisitor with you to the meeting as the pastor answers your question. This will also help them get in the habit of going to other godly spiritual authorities for answers and advice.
If you are having times of teaching and family worship I want to encourage you to stay at it. Wow, do I know it’s difficult at times–a lot of the time. Our young people today, who claim to be Christians, have such a thin, shaky foundation that any wind of false doctrine or cultural attack causes their faith to crumble. We can help our children by laying for them a good, thick, solid foundation of God’s Word, doctrine, prayer, and fellowship with the family of God.
Most importantly, as you work hard at teaching, training, and leading your family…rest in the gospel of Christ! It is easy to get overwhelmed, disappointed in yourself, and depressed because you see what a huge task this is, the weight of its importance, and your failure to do enough (or what you think is enough). As you do what God, in His Word, has commanded you to do, rest in His grace toward you in Jesus; rest in His sovereignty over your children (and all things); rest in His provision of power for you in the Holy Spirit!
A Few Helpful Resources
“Family Driven Faith” – Voddie Baucham
“Big Truths for Young Hearts – Teaching & Learning the Greatness of God” – Bruce Ware – Doctrine for kids.
Grounded in the Gospel – J. I. Packer
“Old Story New: Ten Minute Devotions to Draw Your Family to God” (New Testament) – Marty Machowski
“The Jesus Storybook Bible” – Sally Lloyd-Jones