Dad The Theologian

Dads, you are the family theologian. It doesn’t matter if you wanted that role or not; it’s yours. It’s mine. We are constantly teaching our children; they are always learning from us. Parents play a huge role in shaping a child’s view of God. As the leaders of our homes it is our job to make sure we are informing and training them as accurately as possible.

Are we seeking to know God more deeply? Are we seeking to live a holy life? Are we seeking to understand Him and His creation, His grace, His gospel better? Fellow dads, are you learning so that you can better equip your children? Are you praying for them, that God would capture their hearts and set them on fire with a passion for Him and His Truth?

Do you have regular times during the week where you sit and formally teach your children about the God we serve and love? If not, for their sake and yours, I plead with you to start. It doesn’t have to be every night, but start teaching them, and by God’s grace be consistent.

One of the many things this will do is get your children in the habit of coming to you with spiritual or biblical questions, which is way better than having them run to their friends with life’s most important questions. Don’t be afraid of the questions. And don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.” If they have a question you can’t answer, call your pastor and set up a meeting with him. Then, take the your little inquisitor with you to the meeting as the pastor answers your question. This will also help them get in the habit of going to other godly spiritual authorities for answers and advice.

If you are having times of teaching and family worship I want to encourage you to stay at it. Wow, do I know it’s difficult at times–a lot of the time. Our young people today, who claim to be Christians, have such a thin, shaky foundation that any wind of false doctrine or cultural attack causes their faith to crumble. We can help our children by laying for them a good, thick, solid foundation of God’s Word, doctrine, prayer, and fellowship with the family of God.

Most importantly, as you work hard at teaching, training, and leading your family…rest in the gospel of Christ! It is easy to get overwhelmed, disappointed in yourself, and depressed because you see what a huge task this is, the weight of its importance, and your failure to do enough (or what you think is enough). As you do what God, in His Word, has commanded you to do, rest in His grace toward you in Jesus; rest in His sovereignty over your children (and all things); rest in His provision of power for you in the Holy Spirit!

A Few Helpful Resources

White Horse Inn podcast “Youth Ministry in Crisis”

“Family Driven Faith” – Voddie Baucham

“Big Truths for Young Hearts – Teaching & Learning the Greatness of God” – Bruce Ware – Doctrine for kids.

Grounded in the Gospel – J. I. Packer

“Old Story New: Ten Minute Devotions to Draw Your Family to God” (New Testament) – Marty Machowski

“The Jesus Storybook Bible” – Sally Lloyd-Jones


Biblical Masculinity in Fatherhood Pt.2

This is the fourth post in the Biblical Masculinity series. Post One: What is Biblical Masculinity?Post Two: Biblical Masculinity in Marriage, Post Three: Biblical Masculinity in Fatherhood Pt.1.

In part one of Masculine Fatherhood we discussed what God expects of us as Christian dads. We also covered a few key areas of development that you should be working into your child’s life. In this post we will talk about some practical ideas that may help you as you decide what it looks like in your home to raise your children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Keep in mind that these are suggestions, not an exhaustive list. Don’t feel that if you aren’t doing everything on this list that you’re not a good dad. These come and go in seasons at our house – except for worship, catechism, Bible, etc. If God does convict you in an area, don’t beat yourself up. Run to Him, repent, and start doing right.

So here are a few ideas, in no certain order. Read more

Family Leadership - Biblical Manhood

Practical Tips for Leading Your Family

Family leadership at times can be a bit ambiguous. As Christian men, we know we should be leading our families in the pursuit and worship of Christ. But, if we were honest with each other it feels at times as if we were given a mission and then dropped behind enemy lines with little to no supplies and zero direction.

I believe the best thing we can do for our families is personally seek Christ with all our hearts (studying, praying, worshipping, etc.) and allow Him to change us. We cannot teach our wives and children things we do not know ourselves, nor show them the beauties of Christ and His gospel that we haven’t seen. Read more


Family Worship Is A Discipline

Anyone who thinks family worship is not a discipline has either not tried to be consistent with it for any length of time or they have never tried it and are merely romanticizing it. It is a discipline. It is hard at times. It can frustrate you to no end. There may be times you half-way consider bringing physical harm to one of your little disciples. 😉

Having said all of that, none of these are good excuses to not have consistent times of family worship. By the way, not every time will be difficult. Though “family worship times” are not commanded in Scripture, this is a discipline that has proven beneficial for children and parents for thousands of years. I can tell you from experience and from listening to older dads who raised children having family worship that there is no better way to raise your children in the fear and instruction of the Lord (which is commanded).

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What Family Leadership Looks Like In My Home

In speaking to many men over the past few years I keep hearing a recurring theme. Guy after guy says something to the effect of, “I know I should be leading my home, I just don’t know what to do or where to start.” I give them a few ideas, share parts of my story and then wrap it up with “Just start doing something.”

So I decided I would pull back the curtain and let people know what it looks like in my home for me to lead out spiritually. This is in no way meant to be braggadocious on me or my wife. All credit and glory belongs to God alone. I wish I had time to tell of the immeasurable healing and restoration that He has brought into my family! Nor is this me trying to tell other men exactly how they should lead in their homes. Every home is unique and as such will operate a bit differently.

I’m merely trying to call attention to the fact that as men, we are the pastors of our families! This is our calling in life. It is our job to pass on our faith, teaching them who God is. We ARE leading our families whether we know it or not. The question is: Where and to whom are we leading them?

In this post I will focus on what family leadership looks like in regard to my children. I’ll deal with leading our wives in another post.

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Football: Fun Game, Poor Master.

I live in the South where sports in general and football in particular is god. I wish I were exaggerating, but if you’ve ever visited the South during football season you know I’m not. So, I have to fight the never-ending battle of helping men realize that something has become an idol in their lives. Whether it is a sports team they are a fan of, a sport they play as a hobby, or a sport their children play it all ends up the same way. It becomes all they think about, talk about, and live for. Now, they would say different but their actions don’t line up with what they say most of the time.

I consider myself a fairly athletic guy (at least for a few minutes at a time) and I do like me some football (fantasy team and all). So I’m not throwing off on something that I just don’ like. But, my big question to men and dads is “Do you or your children know more about a sport or sports team than you do the God of the Bible”? This goes for any sport, but where I live college and high school football are the biggest so I always like to boil it all down for them.

In football if you take away the strategies, the over paid coaches, the inflated ticket prices, the bands, the jumbotrons, the music, the crowds, the under-dressed cheerleaders, the expensive equipment, the endless number of commentators, etc., at the end of the day all you have is a bunch of teenage BOYS playing a GAME. It’s nothing more than a glorified version of what we played, when we were young, with the neighborhood kids when someone always got mad and took the good ball home with them leaving the rest of us to play with an old, ratty Nerf ball that the dog had chewed up.

Yet people will take time off of work, take vacation time, get to the game early to tailgate, maybe even spend the night or camp out, spend ridiculous amounts of money and resources, meet with their friends and celebrate for hours when a big game comes up. But when it comes to thinking about, studying about, or even talking about God they “Don’t have enough time”. When it comes to meeting together as a corporate body or leading their family in worshipping a God who has had such great mercy and grace (in Christ) on us sinful, rebellious humans who deserve to spend an eternity in Hell under God’s full wrath and punishment… they find it all a bit too boring.

It’s not wrong to watch, play, or enjoy football or any other sport, but as dads we have to keep things in perspective. Yes, we keep things in perspective in order to guard our own lives from falling into idolatry, but also knowing that statistically our children will worship the things we do.

We were created to worship. And worship we will. The question is what or whom!